Don't Always Be Self Conscious

Are you being Self Conscious? scared of what others might have to say about you? what are they thinking of you? whats the point? It doesn't help anyone, whether its you, your friends, your parents, anyone. 

Why should you be worrying about what other people think? Doing so just shows others that you don't have any love for yourself which in turn they sense that weakness and it makes yourself an easy target for judgement and criticism.What you choose to do and say is up to you and it should not matter what others have to say about it. If it makes you happy then d it! Don`t think of yourself as a fool because others judge you because of your wanting to feel good. Always be aware of yourself if you are being self conscious because it is a serious thing. Never doubt yourself. Always strive to get what you want when you know it will make you feel good about yourself. 

That being said, here are a few ways to counter act being self consciousness. Follow these steps and youll NEVER have to worry about what others have to say again. 

• Get the facts straight. In a situation where you are under the "spotlight", recognize that not everybody is surgically picking out every detail you say, whether its a presentation, board meeting, etc. 
• Decrease your incidences where you get self conscious feelings. How that can happen is by being more prepared for public situations. Mentally preparing yourself goes along way, and it can help you fight your battle with self consciousness. 
• ALWAYS think positively. Never have a strain of doubt or negative thoughts what ever the situation. always believe you can do it, because you can. anybody can. You just need to have that sense of want. 
• Fight your fear. Go up there thinking you will be alright. Not everybody is knit picking your every move so cut out thoughts that you might be doing something wrong. With that, what people think of you should not matter regardless. You are you because of you. You do things to make yourself happy, not to make others happy. 

Stage Fright: How to have a successful presentation

Many successful presentations follow the acronym A-E-O-M-I-S-S-S

 

What’s A-E-O-M-I-S-S-S?

 

Audience

Energy

Organization

Material

Interaction

Surprise

Staging

Self-awareness

 

Audience

·         Do you know your audience?

·         What makes the audience happy? Pictures/videos, Quotations, ideas, Candy/prizes

·         What bores the audience? Stating the obvious, too much info, too little info

 Energy

·         Use the right volume so your audience can hear you clearly

·         Act like you have a passion for the topic

·         Do not stand in one position

·         Be confident and engaging

 Organization

·         Have an intro, body, conclusion

·         Sate the big and interesting points up front

·         Have something you want your audience to take away from this presentation

·         Use power point slides

Material

·         Use a variety of material

·         Have handouts, illustrations, videos, props or examples

 Interaction

·         Understand where the audience is in regards to your topic

·         Adapt your style of talk to your audience

·         Keep track of what the audience says and in turn relate it in your presentation

 Surprise

·         Your audience expects or already knows how you are going talk ex. Walk through 25 slides

·         Break this expectation by doing something completely unexpected like using different presentation software, getting them involved etc.

·         Be creative !

Staging

·         Practice hand-offs with other presenters

·         Do not hide behind the podium

·         Make eye contact with your audience

 Self-Awareness

·         Are you aware of how your acting? Ex. Hand movements, saying “ums, “ahs” etc.

·         Do you know how the audience is responding to your presentation? Are they bored? What parts are they more attentive to?

·         Use body language and clues to keep track of the audiences response

 

 

All in all, In order to have a successfull presentation use AEOMISSS in order to get you to success !!!!

 

Don't Follow This Guy !

 

How to Meditate Away the Stage Fright

These are just some tips on how to meditate away stage fright 
and help you go along with your day !!

1. Sit or lie down in a comfortable position.  Uncross legs and arms and fingers and toes.

2.  Close your eyes.

3. Breathe in slowly and deeply for a count of 4.

4. Exhale even slower for a count of 8.

5. Repeat 3 or 4 times and then just breathe in and out regularly without forcing the air.

6. Stay present and focused on each breath.

7. Thoughts will come into your mind.  Recognize them and let them go.

8. If you lose your place, return to the focused breath as soon as you become aware that your mind has drifted.

9. Continue for as long or as short as you feel comfortable.

10.  Try to not adjust your physicality once you begin, but if you must, do so without being self judgmental.

Stage fright:Physical Preparation 101

Stage fright:Physical Preparation 101

EFFECTIVE PRESENTATION TRAINING 

Our primal brain shuts down normal functions as the 'fight or flight' impulse takes over. (See FEAR under the acronyms section - warning - there is some adult content among the acronyms for training and presentations.)
But don't worry - your audience wants you to do well. They're on your side.
They're pleased it's you up there and not them.
All you need to do is be prepared and practice your material, and everything will be fine. As the saying goes, don't try to get rid of the butterflies - just get them flying in formation.
(Incidentally if you know the origins the wonderful butterfly metaphor - typically given as "There is nothing wrong with stomach butterflies! You just have to get them to fly in formation!"
So, how do you settle the butterflies and get them flying in formation?
Good preparation is the key to confidence, which is the key to you being relaxed, and this settles the butterflies.
Good preparation and rehearsal will reduce your nerves by 75%, increase the likelihood of avoiding errors to 95%. (Source: Fred Pryor Organisation, a significant provider of seminars and open presentation events.)
And so this is the most important rule for effective presentations and public speaking:
Prepare, which means plan it, and practice it.
Then you'll be in control, and confident. Your audience will see this and respond accordingly, which in turn will help build your confidence, and dare we imagine, you might even start to enjoy yourself too. Follow these steps and your sure to avoid stage fright!

Be A Fighter!!! Beat That Stage Fright Anxiety Away

You know that feeling you get when you start somewhere or something new and feel kind of scared, lost or have no sense of belonging? Well most like your suffering from anxiety!! Don’t worry everyone has it sports players, musicians, and even performers, its that big audience or the knowing that eyes are watching.

 

Want to know how to be a fighter and beat that stage fright anxiety away????

 

Listen In !!!!!

 

You got to be confident and say to yourself “I can do this; everyone watching is like me, human!!” Really think to yourself how realistic your fears really are.

Will the world end??? Will you die??? Noooo!!!

 

SO JUST DO IT!!

 

Get to know your body and remember the feeling you get when you are relaxed and learn to imitate that feeling before, during and after performing. This will ensure success as it will show the viewer you are confident and know what you’re talking about.

 

Just like before any big game, performance or show individuals tend to practice, practice practice with no audience or little amounts of viewers, so get the chance to rehearse your performance with a friend or family member before hitting a large crowd.

 

Then once you have performed your now going to feel a bit better about yourself and have an increase in self confidence so continue to perform because it’s just going to allow your body to tolerate the pressure, allowing that pressure to slowly go away.

 

Remember relax, perform as frequently as possible, and practice makes perfect !!!

 

So you can be that star performer!!!

performance coaching-stage fright & how to beat it!

So far we have looked at performance in relation to a number of sports, but stage fright issues can equally relate to the Performing Arts.

Even the most seasoned performer will get stage fright, some get it all the time and say that it gives an edginess to their performance which is beneficial. For others it can ruin a performance it just takes a different direction on people.

As with a lot of things preparation is the key, and firstly you will need to look at whether your preparation is the cause of stress which is causing your stage fright.

In terms of basic preparation look at things like:-

• Do I know all of my lines / dance moves / words to a song and more importantly the meaning they must convey.
• Do I have all my costumes or equipment ready.
• Do you have your music and back ups. I have seen people unable to perform because of a problem with their music and not having any backups.
• Get their on time.
• Try not to plan anything else important for that day.

ll simple stuff you may say, but time again people cause their own stress due to not being prepared. Remember “Fail to prepare, prepare to fail”, or the  5 P’s, Poor Planning, Produces Poor Performance.

But what if your planning is fine but your mental preparation is the cause of your stage fright?

There are a number of techniques you can use to help with this, creative visualization  anchoring techniques or hypnosis.

CHECK OUT COACH KEN TAYLOR TALK ABOUT STAGE FRIGHT AND GIVE YOU SOME TIPS !!

Nobody likes to be judged, but that's the world we live in where our every word and move is criticized. In regards to stage fright, judgement and anxiety can get serious. Plenty of scenarios come to mind where anxiety kicks in, such as

• Being the center of attention
• Being watched while performing a task. In the case of stage fright, presentations, talent shows, speeches, are all involved
• Talking to people of higher authority, ex. work, having to speak with those of greater seniority and power within the company. 
• In the classroom when called upon by the professor to answer a question in front of the class 

Symptoms of anxiety differ between emotional and physical. Below is a few symptoms of both physical and emotional symptoms followed by a few ways for someone to conquer their anxiety disorder

Physical:

• Red Face, Blushing
• Short of breath
• Nausea
• Shaking
• Heart is racing
• Sweating
• Dizzyness

Emotional

• Self Conscious 
• Lengthy worry before a social situation, such as presentations, speeches, or anything having to do with speaking in front of an audience
• Fear of being watched by others. Judgment also a cause 

Ways to deal with Anxiety

• Challenge all your negative thoughts
• Identify your thought and underline what the main issue is. Messing up? Being in front of everyone? 
• Controlling your breathing
• Face your problems

• Avoiding certain situations helps you at the current time, but later on when you need to go through the situation again, it becomes more of a challenge because you've been avoiding it for too long

Stage fright:Physical Preparation 101

Stage fright
Physical Preparation 101: Chewing Gum in School

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Chewing gum in school has some benefits. Children have a tricky time concentrating, but it is now proven that chewing gum actually helps them pay attention. Ironically, if students work on two things at once, they are better able to focus on the main task.

Positives of chewing gum:

• Increases heart rate since it is a physical activity
• Decreases students' bathroom breaks and hunger
• Causes students to remain quiet longer
• Lessen tooth decay
• Fresh breath
• Ability to focus at a better rate
• Helps concentration
• Easier to read and focus on presentations

Negatives of chewing gum:

• It can be distracting
• Children stick gum on chairs, desks, walks, etc.

Braving Stage Fright— Using the Right Brain to Combat Performance Anxiety

When we practice hour after hour, we enter a zone where musical concentration is paramount. Our self-awareness seems to disappear, and all our attention is focused on correct fingerings, note attacks, tone nuances, breathing, and so forth. As soon as an external factor comes into play, we suddenly move out of the zone and become much more aware of our bodies and the movements we are executing during practice. 

Numerous studies suggest that our brain functions on two different modes (Right—Intuitive, and Left—Analytical) and that one side (or hemisphere) is dominant in some people and equal in others. Left-brain people focus on logic, analysis, and accuracy. Right-brained people focus on aesthetics, feeling, and creativity. I suggest that practicing with both brain hemispheres (as opposed to only the Left—Analytical) can simulate a live performance and drastically enhance the end result.

Concrete Solutions to Enhance Live Performance

One key difference between practicing alone and performing live is that practicing alone allows for “second chances” to repeat difficult passages whereas performing live only allows for one “shot”. Practicing with this in mind helps simulate live performing.

Projecting a sense of assertiveness and positive attitude and smiling while entering the stage inevitably makes the audience comfortable and naturally will enhance their overall response. Have you ever noticed how musicians with great bowing skills and stage presence often get thundering applause compared to the sheepish recitalist? Even though a musician can feel stressed or insecure, the motions of acting confident helps alleviate those feelings and if this is done repeatedly, the feeling of confidence will become a reality.

I find that talking to the audience during the performance (between pieces) not only helps to dissipate stress, it is always welcome by listeners. This transforms the event into a two-way experience rather than put all the burden onto the performer.

Naturally, there is the undeniable fact that the more we perform the more we can eventually turn a stressful situation into a simple day to day “this is my job” kind of affair.

Bring one or more trusted friends along in the green room and have them chat with you and evenlaugh. Or, on the other hand, if you are more comfortable alone, use the pre-concert time to meditateand tend to the necessary details preparation. Deep breathing is a sure way to help relax and oxygenate the blood generously.

Stage fright can also be an indicator that the performer cares about the musical result on a deep level, which is a positive thing.

Enjoy the moment and view performing as a way to share artistic ideas rather than being judged for them.

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Stage Fright, we all get it. Even the most open and talkative person has a tough time speaking in front of a large audience. Not everyone has the ability of an actor or an entertainer who's whole life has been in front of large crowds. Its all in the matter of practice.

In regards to stage fright, we all suffer from different causes and effects of stage fright, some more stranger than others. Next is a list of several causes of stage fright suffered by people, all of which we can counter.

• Unfamiliarity with the crowd. Being shy and not be able to open up to new people. 

• Fear of everybody focusing directly on you. Regardless of whether or not a person is familiar with the crowd, fear of error and shyness could over take a person. 

• Too much pressure to perform the task without creating error, leading to people's criticism.  

• Not enough practice. Practicing in front of family or even friends before hand could help ease the presentation later on.

Physical Preparation 101: Chewing GUM!?!

Stage fright
Physical Preparation 101: Chewing GUM!?!

Doing any kind of presentation can be stressful on the mind and body. One thing you can do is to try and keep yourself occupied while you’re presenting.  Well you might ask “how do I keep myself busy or occupied while doing a performance or presentation?” There’s a simple solution, you can chew gum while you’re performing or presenting. Chewing gum during any activity keeps your sub conscious mind active and busy and thus your mind won’t wander. So basically helps you stay focused during your performance or presentation and keeps your mind focused on the objective. Chewing gum will basically calm your nerves and if you suffer from dry mouth while speaking for long periods of time, this will be your helpful solution instead frequently reaching for your bottle of water. But remember, don’t be rude when chewing gum, don’t pop or crackle or blow bubbles when your chewing gum, your audience may find it rude. Try and be subtle when your chewing gum and make sure it’s not visible to the audience. So if you have problems presenting whether it be stress, nerves, dry mouth or just plain scared, try chewing some gum. But don’t take my word for it, some of the greatest performers’ chewed gum during pressure and nerve racking situations.

Be the bigger person!!!

Preparation, preparation, preparation—always with your audience in mind

 

1.      First, create an interesting presentation designed to give your audience what they want and need including things such as visuals and using software such as Prezi to enhance your presentation.

 

2.      Second, understand what your audience is seeing by recording yourself giving you the opportunity to see how you really look when your presenting giving you the opportunity to make changes.

 

 

3.      Third, get feedback from real people by giving the presentation to a few willing colleagues prior.

 

4.      Fourth, prepare for your specific audience by asking them questions before you start or create a handout to keep the audience involved.

 

5.      Fifth, prepare for your next presentation by asking your audience how you did so there is room for improvement for your next one.

 

5 ways to deal with anxiety/stage fright

·         Become a relation expert: we all think we know how to relax. But chilling in front of a TV or computer isn’t actually relaxing. What the body really needs is a relaxation technique — like deep breathing, tai chi, or yoga — that has a physical effect on the mind.

·         Get enough sleep, nourishment, and exercise: Want your mind and body to feel peaceful and strong enough to handle life's ups and downs? Get the right amount of sleep for your needs — not too much or too little. Eat well: Choose fruit, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains for long-term energy.

 

·         Connect with others: Spend time with friends or family. Organized activities are great, but just hanging out works too. Doing things with those we feel close to deepens our bonds, allowing us to feel supported and secure

·         Connect with nature: Heading out for a walk in the park or a hike in the woods can help anyone feel peaceful and grounded.

·         Think positive:  A great way to keep our minds off the worry track is to focus our thoughts on things that are good, beautiful, and positive. Allow yourself to dream, wish, and imagine the best that could happen.

young kid with stage fright